Thursday, February 26, 2015

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Friday, February 20, 2015

Accidental Experiment in Fucklessness

My accidental fucklessness experiement yesterday yielded 107 responses. 107. (As of this morning.  The number is higher now!)

Here is the original post from Facebook:

READ CAREFULLY - Ok, so let me see how this turns out: It occurs to me that for each and every one of you on my friends list, I catch myself looking at your pictures, sharing jokes and news, as well as support during good and bad times. I am also happy to have you among my friends. We will see who will take the time to read this message until the end. I'm going to be watching to see who takes care of the friendship, just like me. So if you are reading this, then thank you for being a part of my life. So leave ONE WORD to tell me about a fuck you would like to not give. Just one fuck that you wish you could give up... tell it to me... your FUFriend until the end, beautiful babies.

As of this moment, 116 people have responded. 116 people responded to the post to say that they have at least one thing that they would like to give up giving a fuck about. Fucklessness. That is what I am talking about. What does it say about us all that we are so stressed and burdened by negativity? So, I challenged everyone to take a No Fucks Challenge. See how you might be transformed by letting go of that of which you give too many fucks and that which deserves utter fucklessness. Try it for a day or a week. Try consciously letting go of your fucks about the thing that you listed....Let me know what happens.  

I don;'t know if anyone will actually do this, but I was overwhelmed by the quality and quantity of responses and so I made these little word clouds as visual representations of that which burdens us the most.  Please notice the leading cause of our troubles...



Day 51: Not just sometimes... always


Thursday, February 19, 2015

She fell

She watched as it all fell away from her.  Her life.  Her loves.  Her feelings.  Her hopes.  Hope was a bane to her existence.  Her friends said she wasn't the same.  She wasn't.  Her dad was sick and her mother was lonely and she felt like no matter how hard she tried, she could never ever possibly be enough.  Her husband and daughter looked upon her with shame and embarrassment.  She folded into herself more and more.  It was the only place that was safe.  Away from shame.  And yet she felt an oppressive sense of guilt over her withdrawal.  She felt that she was only failing more and that continuing to fail was the only option for her survival.  And the only thing she was good at was failing.  She fell and she watched herself closing up.  And she eventually disappeared.

She saw the death of love and people

She was just looking for some peace in another long day of turmoil, rejection and frustration.  She lived in a house where the walls were made of disappointment and the air in the house was heavy with disdain.  She wanted some space from it all.  The house was starting to feel like the holding cell that they keep you in before they take you to the asylum.  She decided she would run.  That would help to get her out into the world and into nature, there was a community bookshelf on the route that would make her insanely happy and she could channel some of her anxious energy.

He insisted he would go.  She protested.  Running was a solo activity... kind of like life, she supposed.  But she acquiesced because she really wanted things to be good and they got in the car.  They didn't make it three blocks until he wanted to know which way they were going, which seemed fair.  Straight and then left, she replied.  And then which way were they going, he asked.  Park on St Lawrence, she replied.  He asked what was wrong with her.  Why was she irritated.  He was asking which way they were going to walk.  She told him that she didn't know.  She thought it was another question about general direction since there hadn't been any mention of the context of the question changing.  Arguing ensued.  Loud voices.  Hurtful, hateful words.  He turned the car around and he put in his earphones so he could shut her out.  He slammed on the brakes in the car on an empty road while going 40 miles an hour.  She was thrown forward and afraid.  She asked to be let out of the car and he yelled at her to get away from him, over and over.  She was terrified and at the next stoplight, she exited the vehicle and started walking to her original destination.

He continued on his journey and she continued on hers.  She tried to call him and tell him she was scared and he said she was a liar.  She walked.  And then she ran.  She listened to sad songs, but she also reveled in being able to listen to them as she had been mocked and shamed for them before.  She knew that they both hated her.  She knew it with all of her heart that they hated her with all of their hearts.  She knew that every breath she took was a blemish on their happiness.

She ran.  She walked.  She sang.  She cried.  Horrible things were sent by text.  Lies were spoken.  He said.  She said.  And she walked and she ran.  She was alone in the dark and she was both terrified and relieved.  She sat and wondered how things had come to this.  She cried and she cried and she ran.  She watched every car that drove by, and there were many.  She hoped he cared enough not to leave her out in the dark, but that was her problem.... the hoping.  She became increasingly unhinged, angry with herself and prayed to nothing that she would just disappear.  Cease to be.  And she walked and she ran.

He was home.  Making dinner for his family of two.  He sent messages with feigned language of care.  She replied angrily.  And she walked.  He had left her.  Abandoned her.  Physically.  She prayed to nothing again for another life.  A life where she wasn't a liar and a nigger and Gone Girl.  But he insisted she deserved all of that because he had been provoked by the storms in her heart.  She walked.  Miles passed and eventually, out of guilt or whatever, he came for her.  He pretended not to know where to go.  She didn't believe him.  She was the kind of girl who was always where she said she was.  She was not Gone Girl.  She walked.  He arrived after 4.4 miles of darkness and she climbed into the car.

She walked into the house and was strangled by the hate and despair that hung heavy in the air.  She went to the garage where she had slept the weekend before and she sat.  She sat and she read.  She was cold and sore.  She was emotionally and physically wrought.  She surrendered and went in the house, overwhelmed as she moved through the space where she didn't belong.  She sat and she read.  And then she slept.

The sleep was ugly.  She dreamed of death of love and people.  She had fits.  She cried.  She threw up and she saw the death of love and people.


Day 50: Once Upon a Time


Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Staring out of the window. 
She felt like
So many clouds.
Blown along

On the authority of others.

Day 48: In case you didn't really get yesterday's message. I said FUCK IT. YOU ARE ENOUGH.


To Kill a MockingbirdTo Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Classic literature is really not my thing.  I tend to shun anything that everyone seems to think is fabulous.  I rarely think that most things 'classic' tend not to live up to their reputation, but I was definitely wrong with TKAM.  I thoroughly enjoyed every page of this story and found the commentary on both sexism and racism so interesting.  I do question the reasons why the author never had another published book and I did read TKAM based on the recent publicity surrounding Harper Lee.  I am still intrigued as such.


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